Anyone who has worked with me knows that I am a very big proponent of taking time to honor and celebrate your moon time each cycle. It's a way to connect and get in touch with yourself and the rhythms of your body. This can be a great form of self-care when you're not trying to conceive, but when you are, it can feel like the last thing you want to do. During the two-week wait, you may have allowed yourself to feel hopeful, or things may have felt different this time and the excitement was building. Getting your period can be painful on every level. This blog post is intended to help get you through that time with a different perspective.
1) Every moment of life is ceremony. In each moment we have an opportunity to pause and dive more deeply into our own wounds to see where we still need to heal. Take a moment to notice what arises in you. What emotions come up, what thoughts, what worries, what fears. Write them down because these are GOLD. As women we are energetically much more open during our periods. The things that often remain just below the surface come up more readily. This is a sacred time when you're being given a clear glimpse into what's going on for you on a deeper level.
** Make sure that you do write all of it down. It's not unusual to forget or to be able to explain them away once your period is over. These are underlying beliefs that we can change with a modality like NET, for example.
2) Make an intentional effort to forgive your body. Holding on to feelings of resentment, anger, or hatred creates energetic baggage that is completely unhelpful on every level of your being, not just regarding fertility. Forgive your body and recognize that more than likely your body is communicating something valuable to you: maybe the timing isn't right for reasons that may or may not be clear to you, maybe there is a hormonal imbalance that is still present, maybe you're too consumed with anxiety to allow a space for receptivity and creativity, which is often necessary for calling in a child. I suggest radical trust in your body-- especially if no frank pathology has been identified (ie. endometriosis, PCOS, fibroids, etc). And even if there is frank pathology, know that you are doing everything in your power to support your body's healing. Trust in your own efforts and trust in your body's ability to heal.
3) Turn to the plants. If you're in physical discomfort, a strong cup of ginger tea may just help you get through it. If you have any herbal oils on hand, this is a good time to use those as well. Lavender is a personal favourite.
4) Turn it over the Nature. One of my favourite practices for getting through challenging times is going outside to a natural environment (this can be your backyard if you're fortunate enough to have one!) and sitting by a tree. Through the soles of my feet I imagine myself releasing all of the emotions and thoughts that I know aren't serving me and that are holding me back. Let go of anything you need or want to let go of.
5) Connect with supportive friends and/or family. Infertility is painful and difficult. Lean on those that make you feel loved, supported, hopeful and understood.